We’ve had this thought numerous times over the past few years, and we’re having it once again as we write this first post of what we hope will be many. What would induce us to put perhaps the most private aspect of our lives out in the open? Why would we even begin to risk the potential fallout that being outed would undoubtedly bring about?
Well, frustration for starters. What we have learned is that there is no instruction manual for alternative lifestyles. Now before you point us in the direction of any of the numerous books and websites dedicated to the subject, rest assured we have explored those. But just as every person is unique, so is every situation. There is no all-encompassing guide on how to maneuver through a lifestyle–or whatever you want to call it–that is ever changing, both behind the scenes and in the public eye. We’ve met all kinds of folks from all sorts of different backgrounds, different states, and at different life stages. And one thing has become abundantly clear: no one really has a clue what they are doing. It’s learn as you go and finding what works for you. The challenge comes when you try to connect your “normal” with someone else’s. It’s a challenge to say the least.
We don’t profess to have answers or expertise, but we hope that by sharing our journey we can maybe help others who find themselves spinning their wheels in the mud and going nowhere fast.
We are both professionals from Midwest America, so being out with our identities is a non-option. Maybe one day, when we move far away and retire, that will become an option, but we have careers and children to think about, like so many others we have met. So for the time being, we will keep our identities secret as we reflect on the path we’ve traveled thus far, our current situation as it continues to develop, and where we plan on heading in the future.
We would love for this blog to become a resource. A place where like-minded folks can visit, read, maybe be slightly entertained, and share their own experiences as well. And if not, if no one listens, the process of pouring all of this out and analyzing our situation is cathartic in its own right.